I have downloaded hours and hours of videos of dommes telling me what a total loser I am. Are they right? Am I a loser? Let me ask a different question. Am I a winner? Hell, no. Not by any stretch of the imagination. So can one draw the conclusion that because I am not a winner, I am a loser. Maybe there is somewhere between winning and losing, but that is not really the way life works. If you are not winning, you are losing. I am not winning so I am a loser.